There is always a time for everything

It took me quite some time to fully understand that sometimes in life it doesn't take just sheer hard work to get things done smoothly or successfully.

And I say this with relevance to literally everything. From school, to work to relationships to trying to conceive a child?

The universe works in so many mysterious ways and sometimes we just have to let things happen on its own. We should all learn the art of letting things fall into place itself. I do not say this to spread the misconception of sitting on your butts and waiting for things to fall from the sky.

I say this in relevance in not being too hard on yourself, when you know in your heart and everything you've got that it's REALLY ALL that you have to give. In these situations, please do yourself a favour and save the fight for the best battles because if you fight the wrong battles, many times you lose the fire in you.

Sometimes things really happen for a reason and I always believe in this, that everything happens for a reason. I can use my personal experience with relation to getting my book out. I started working on my first novel a couple of years back but I did not know where the story was heading and I stopped it completely. I was bummed. Disappointed for a while but I feel that I couldn't have found a better time than now to start on this. I would not have the patience to finish what I started and I wouldn't have allowed myself to be totally alright with bad critics as I feel I wouldn't have been able to take it at the time i.e. lack of maturity. P.s. some bad critics are always good.

It works out in the end. Trust me on this. Sometimes you put your heart and soul to be committed into a relationship say for 4 years, somehow down the road, maybe she/he or you decided that it cannot continue anymore. And no matter how hard you try, it always goes back to the stage of being disappointed over and over again. Then suddenly, you step out the door to the dry cleaners, you meet someone and you end up getting hitched by the end of the year.

Maybe you got fired from a job. Something which you thought was your life. And in this job, you gave all the extra hours and initiative and feel like it was it. You found your calling. You try for months and months after that finding for a similar job but nothing works out. Then after a year or two of doing part time or contract based jobs, you end up getting something else which works out even better for you in terms of your career goals or the possibility that your career goals eventually change. Then after a few years of moving on from that first job you got fired from, you realize that it was for the best, That job you lost, was just a form of a stepping stone for you but you didn't realize it back then because you were too busy being hard on yourself for being an idiot in placing yourself in situations to get yourself fired.

My point is, don't pull or hang on to something so tightly if it stops making you feel happy. Or even if it causes you to be depressed in whichever form. To reach the stage of letting go of negativity and things gracefully and peacefully, takes a certain level of patience and experience to finally be okay with failing in something, accepting it and understand it is okay to fail and be alright and ready to get back at it again.

So my friend, with that said, There is always a time for everything. Your time. So don't rush it through because every failure sprouts a growth in us and teaches us how to behave or react in future and no amount of money will be able to buy or give you that experience or feeling. Be patient.

"It will always be okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end."

Love,

Naia